Blessing’s On Your Sacred Journey
May 29, 2025
A while ago, I bought a book at Barnes & Noble. It’s called, “3,000 Question’s About Me.” At the time I thought it would be a really fun thing to do, but I am realizing that, at that time, I was looking for myself. Looking for my true, authentic self. Not realizing, that she was within me, just covered in layer’s of conditioning, insecurities, guilt and shame. I think back on it now, and I realize that it was my intuition that was trying to get me to listen. My authentic self was practically screaming to be let out.
I realize it seems cliche. It seems everyone is saying, be yourself. Or, be your most authentic self. Or, be true to your self. And the saying, it feels resonant. We feel the frequency of that authenticity, but many of us still do not know how that looks. Because you come right up against the age old question, “Who Am I?”
I have realized something over the years though. “Who Am I?” is a question you will be asking yourself for the rest of your life. Why? Because you are a forever evolving human being. Especially, when you are conscious and aware and have learned to become comfortable within the discomfort of change and transition. I realize that I have asked myself the question, “Who Am I?”, countless of times and each time, the question carries more weight. Because now, I understand why I am asking the question. Beneath, “Who Am I?” I have been simultaneously asking, “When are you going to let yourself be who you’ve always wanted to be?”
My wisdom says, “You already know who you are.” And my nervous system says, “But we’re scared.” And the entire system shuts down into defense mode. I’ve realized that I’ve spent years in performance mode. Trying to be whatever other’s needed me to be, so that I would be loved and accepted. You know what I’ve come to realize through my healing and through experiencing true grief? I’ve realized, that when you zoom out, no one’s opinion matter’s, unless you allow it to. Even more importantly, life is way too amazing to worry about other people's thoughts about you. I’ve come to realize that the most important thing you can do for anyone, is to be your true self.
When you are your true self, you set the example to other’s, that it is possible to live in the world as the most authentic version of you. That it is safe to be who you really want to be. The most loving thing you can do is be your most authentic self. To continue asking yourself the question, “Who am I?”. Taking note of all the things that come naturally to you. Practicing discernment between the things you prefer and the things you don’t prefer. Many times you realize that the things you thought you liked, was heavily influenced by your peers. You may come to the conclusion that you don’t even like that thing. That you just liked it because everyone else did.
To practice discernment is sacred work. It is not only about preference. It is also about learning to hold the power of your own voice. To teach your nervous system, that it is okay to say no. It is amazing how much we settle for less because we don’t take our own preferences seriously.
If you are here, reading this message today, I offer you so much love on this tender journey of self-discovery. You are not just discovering who you truly are. You are healing generational trauma of silence. You are allowing yourself to own your power. Life will begin to make sense to you and you will begin to walk in full confidence.
Be good to yourself.
Love Always,
Ariel