The Only Truth that Matter’s is Your Own

May 20, 2025

After some serious reflection this morning, I woke up and realized that the only truth that matter’s, is your own. You really only have one life to live and you have to live it on your own term’s.

It’s been such an interesting journey for me to figure out what it is that I actually like and don’t like, what I prefer and don’t prefer. For some time, I would let other’s decide for me or often, I would sit in my own indecision, afraid to make one because I was trying to consider all the pro’s and con’s and all the people involved in the decision. I reflect on how stressful that all was and the thing is, when you spend alot of time in indecision, it becomes familiar. It becomes this cyclical, never ending pattern that has you unable to follow through with your own dreams. Then, you end up pessimistic and cynical because you can never seem to close the gap between where you are, to where you want to be. In your eyes, it becomes everyone else’s fault, but your own. You begin to fill the gap’s with, “If only I didn’t have my children.” Or, “If only my significant other would allow me to.” Or, “If ony I had the time.” Or, “If only I didn’t have to work so much.” I did this. I did this to myself all of the time. Always trying to find justification’s as to why I couldn’t get the gap to close. It's this heavy energy of victimhood that you don’t even realize that you’re preperuating.

I keep peeling away layer’s and coming right back around to the realization that accountability is the true skill here. To take accountability, allows you the freedom to choose to end cycles that are not serving you. I noticed that I was trying to read into other’s too much and I can tell it was a defense and survival mechanism. I needed to justify why I wanted what I wanted. I needed to place some kind of really important reason on why I wanted to do something or make some decision. It could never be, “Because I just want to.” or, “because I feel like it.” And yet, there is so much freedom in making those kinds of choices. To be able to freely say, without guilt or the need to justify, “I want what I want.” That’s always been the freedom I was searching for. And you know, the only person that could gtive that to me, was myself. I

I realize that living life is quite simple. It may be complex, but it is not complicated. I’ve realized that the only thing that matter’s is that I enjoy what I am doing, how I am living, who I am spending time with, what I am creating, then that’s all that matter’s. It allows me to be accountable for my own life and how I show up to everyone else’s table. It also, allows me to leave other’s accountable for the bed they’re making for themselves. At the end of the day, we have zero control over the choices that other people make. No matter how much they tell us we are or, how much we believe we may be.

This message is for the beautiful soul’s who seek freedom to follow their own truth’s. Remember, that it is okay to have preference. It is okay to like some things and not other’s. That’s the beauty of the gift of life that God gave to you. You get this incredible freedom to choose who you want to be, what you want to do and what you want to create in this world. When you tune into the true blessing of that, you realize that your truth’s, are the only one’s that matters. As cliche as it sounds, you really only get this one life, as you are. You deserve to live as your most authentic self. No apologies needed.

Love always,

Ariel