Your One, Valued, Life
June 6, 2025
I was really set on having some type of structured, daily-themed posts, but I’m realizing how imprisoned that almost makes me feel. I am going to be real honest, but I’m probably going to drop that whole idea and just freely write every day. I created this space for myself to express, reflect and inspire. To put a structure on it, makes it feel not very authentic. Especially, for someone like me, who is always protective of her own autonomy. Perhaps, I decided I would try to structure this, in case I ran out of ideas, but if there is anything I don’t run out of, it is ideas. lol Or, reflection’s to share.
One of my most natural abilities, is being able to take any experience I have and find meaning. I believe that life has no inherent meaning. I believe every single human has the capacity to assign meaning to whatever they want, however they want. To me, it explains why we can live in a word that continues to thrive with the endless amounts of diversity. I believe there is no one way of doing things. I believe there is always a way to get something done and I believe that as long as you are open and accepting of change, possibilities are endless. My beliefs are optimistic. Maybe even unreasonable for some, but it ultimately allows me, freedom and fulfillment. Two things I’ve searched for in so many places, people and experiences - only to find that it begins with me.
There are a couple of things I’ve really come face to face with in the past week -
Human’s who have unhealed trauma', will take it out on everyone around them, whether they are conscious of it or not.
There is beauty in following a path that has been carved out by those before you, but there is beauty, depth and fulfillment in carving your own authentic path.
These two things may seem completely unrelated and the experiences that led me to this understanding were different. However, I’ve come to realize, that it is our unhealed trauma that draws us towards paths that have already been carved for us. We find ourselves rushing to get to the end goal. Missing the valuable lesson’s along the way. It is fear of being our most authentic self, that has many people living copy and paste lives. I understand now, why so many people live the American dream and find no fulfillment within it. They go through the motions and do what they believe they are supposed to do, never stopping to question, whether it is true to who they really are, or not. In fact, they do not even know who they really are. It is quite an interesting realization. A deep one. That actually, helped me clarify my own path.
There are times I go back and forth between taking different paths in relationship to all the things I value. I begin looking to copy what other people are doing, but quickly realize that I find no connection to it. I used to interpret it as laziness. Making myself feel guilty for not sacrificing in order to close the gap between where I am, to where I want to be. But you know what I’ve realized, it was never laziness. It was simply that I value authenticity. I value integration. I value making things my own and learning through experience. Not through someone else’s experience. This is especially true when I am creating my business and nourishing the relationship’s that are important to me. And while I find bits of inspiration from others, I have learned to follow the idea that,
you simply take what is relevant for you and your journey, and leave the rest.
And life, can be as simple as that. You do not need to justify, you do not need to sacrifice. You just need to do what is relevant, take what is relevant, for YOU, and leave the rest. It is your choice and that is how you take true ownership of your own autonomy and your one, incredibly special and valued, life.
Remember to always be good to yourself.
Love Always,
Ariel